While proper etiquette states that gifts should not be brought to the wedding, but instead shipped to the bride and groom in advance (or up to one year after the wedding), we still see our fair share of gifts and envelopes brought to weddings. So much so, we make sure there is a table or space at the sign-in area for those well-intentioned guests who schlep their offering to the wedding and create one more task for the couple to have to deal with post-wedding. Bless them.
Sadly, wedding gift thievery exists. If held in a place where other guests at a property (i.e. a hotel) are walking around, or the property is open to the public, there is always the chance someone not attending your wedding can help themselves to a card or gift when no one is looking. And just because the wedding is at a private estate or home doesn’t mean that gifts aren’t subject to thievery. Sometimes it may be staff working the event, or believe it or not, wedding guests themselves- including guests who are unknown to the bride and groom because they came as the “plus one” of an invited guest. Regardless of who it is, at the end of the day, no one knows who took the gift(s), but they are gone. The best way to help prevent this from happening – or reduce your chances dramatically – is to consider the following:
While most couples do not have the budget to hire a licensed and bonded security guard whose only job is to watch the gift table and ensure their safe transportation into the couple’s vehicle or room, the following are more affordable, realistic options:
- Have a trusted family member or friend assigned to be at the gift area one half hour before guest arrival and stay there until after the ceremony to oversee the transportation of any gifts (by pre-designated trusted people) into a locked, no-access environment. Vehicles may be ok for storing gifts, but consider where the vehicle is located and if in a non-secure public area, and others can see you loading the gifts , or see the gifts through the windows of the car, it may encourage thievery to the vehicle. Best to have them transported immediately to a hotel room and actually accompany the gifts to the room and not leave until the room is locked up by the hotel staff.
- Have a locked vessel to hold all money cards. An item such as a vintage suitcase is charming, but if it cannot be secured with the ability to open it held by one person only, it isn’t very theft-proof.
- Carry wedding insurance that covers missing wedding gifts (and make sure you check out under what circumstances they are covered before you purchase the policy). We recommend WedSafe for many of our client’s needs.
Do not assume the wedding venue or anyone working the wedding is responsible for your gift’s security; it is considered your personal property, and while your event partners- including and especially your planner – want the best for your wedding day, and will sometimes offer to help keep an eye out, they are ultimately not responsible in the event of loss or damage to your personal property. Talk to your planner and come up with some ideas that can be implemented. A small bit of attention to detail in advance can protect you – as well as protect the great effort and expense your gift-bearing guests went to because they love you.
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